We all have a lot going on in our busy lives. But have you ever wondered if it would be possible to organize your life and enjoy the benefits of calmer days? The good news is that there is a way! And if you can relate to any of these comments below, then this article is for you!
The kids are in bed and you sit down on the couch. Looking around, you are surrounded by piles of toys. You are too tired to do anything about it, but you can’t fully relax because you feel a little guilty for not cleaning up.
You sit down at your desk, ready to work, but you keep getting distracted by stray notes left on your desk. Your computer desktop isn’t any better, and you can’t find the files that you need when you need them.
You are on a tight schedule, but you can’t ever seem to get anywhere on time. You feel like you should be better at this. And you wonder how other people manage to get places on time?
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The Misconception about Disorganization
In each of those situations you are not being as efficient or as relaxed as you could be. Disorganization goes hand-in-hand with stress. But often we do not see how closely these two things are actually related. If we are used to living in a world of clutter and disorganization, we think that we have adapted to it. We think that we function just fine in the midst of it all. And we think that it would take more time and effort to get organized, than to just function in disarray.
But wait, there are truly benefits to having calmer days!
Dana Grossman Leeman, MSW, PhD of Simmons School of Social Work confirms that this is simply not true.
“Organizing tasks can lead to a restored sense of control and calm. Cognitive Behavioral therapies are fantastic in this regard. This modality is based on the premise that thought patterns will lead to certain behaviors that engender related feeling states. Change the thoughts, and then you can alter behaviors, and shift feelings.
Growing up, my dad had a favorite saying that my siblings and I still joke about. He’d come into our rooms when we were studying, and if he saw clutter and mess, he’d tell us that the key to doing well at any endeavor is having order and organization. “An organized desk makes for organized mind.” To this day, I have to create some order before I can get down to work. This is a life skill that translates to all arenas of our lives.”
ORGANIZE YOUR THINGS
It can be very difficult to keep your home organized if you simply have too much stuff scattered about. Decluttering and sorting through the piles initially will help you keep up with day to day organization. If there are things that you don’t want to get rid of, you can simply put them away in storage for now. Try to really limit how much you keep in your living space, and you will start to see the positive effects quickly.
If you pack away the special cookware and serving-ware, you will have more room to store the kitchen items that you use daily. You can free up counter space and easily put things out of sight if your cabinets are not cluttered with items that you use once or twice a year. Imagine cooking meals in a clean kitchen where you have counter space to chop, prepare, and dish the meals!
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ORGANIZE YOUR TIME
Organizing the physical objects in your life is important. But organizing your time is the next major step. Planning out your time does take a little extra effort up-front. However, it quickly pays off when you are not rushing from activity to activity, and missing deadlines, or forgetting important details. Pay close attention to how much time certain tasks actually take you.
Sometimes you will be surprised at how little time dreaded tasks take (like folding laundry), or you may be surprised at how much time you just spent scrolling through Instagram. Once you have a handle on how long different tasks take you, you can realistically plan out your days. Just don’t forget to leave room for those extra hiccups that always seem to occur just when you’re heading out the door.
Imagine living in a world where you are not checking your car clock every few seconds worrying that you will be late. You can put yourself back in control of your day instead of feeling pulled in all different directions. You will be able to say yes to certain activities, and politely decline others. And all of this while being realistic about your time limits.
ORGANIZE YOUR MIND & Enjoy the Benefits of Calmer Days
Once you have other aspects of your life organized, you will find that your mind automatically becomes more clear. You will have space to brainstorm creative ideas, problem solve, and simply enjoy the moment that you are living at that current moment. You can continue to use other resources to empty out your brain. Try writing lists, use smartphone apps, set alarms, use planners, etc. You can also use Karissa’s strategy of organizing your life by picking different days for different focuses.
The goal is to get you to a state where you can enjoy the life that you have created for yourself. You work hard, and you deserve to be happy! Take the time and energy to organize your life so that you and your family can enjoy the benefits of calmer days.
Co-Owner: Shari Medini
Shari Medini is the co-owner of the parenting website Adore Them. Her prior experience includes working as a marketing strategist and writer on multi-million dollar capital campaigns, website designs, advertising campaigns, and book launches. Shari’s parenting articles have been published in dozens of publications; and she enjoys doing various speaking engagements. When she’s not on her laptop, Shari can be found spending quality time with her husband and two sons exploring their hometown of Lancaster County, PA
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